When you can’t see beyond your circumstance you are easily disheartened. Our view of life and our choices are surprisingly short-sighted. From the things we buy to the people we like, it is only really that thought in the present time that determines how you act or react to a situation. The past shapes your view of life but feelings run your daily choices, that is if you are aware of what your feelings are. It’s amazing how our minds can deceive us into thinking a goal we create for our life is the main thing that matters. for example a professional sportsmen can train so hard and focus so intently on being his best that he neglects to recognize other important needs in his own heart. When we focus on achieving something in a blindly focused way, it can easily distract us from viewing our own hearts. We all have deep desires within our hearts, but some are so deep they are covered by layers of personal paraphernalia, it order to find our deep desires we need to ask ourselves tough questions and be willing to deal with topics such as shame, envy, bitterness, unforgiveness, anger just to name a few. If we don’t ever question ourselves then we fail to see our true potential, if we blindly follow our daily pursuits to obtain more in order to feel successful in life, then we miss out on a lot of feelings, emotions and peace in our hearts. I have observed that our true potential is discovered not in the attainment of a better career or things, but in knowing your heart so well, you realise that your needs aren’t so complicated after all, because honest observation of self is like a fire burning within you, you can either view the flame with fear and use it as an excuse to keep hiding the deep things of your heart in their isolated state, allowing them to have no meaning to you or can view the flame as a personal refining fire that it is only their to burn away the crap laying all around you that you laid there, it gives you a place to burn your junk and help you discover the true desires you may have been neglecting.
have you ever felt like you’re on the outside looking in?
where you are there in the room with others but you don’t feel like you fit in, like they don’t understand you? like you don’t feel like part of their culture but they act like everything is alright because they see you there ready to laugh at their jokes?
Well I’ve felt that way and I think honestly it’s myself who is causing this, but I don’t know why I choose to belittle myself in my own mind and choose to perceive things this way(may be a negative emotional response I developed in childhood I’m yet to unlearn perhaps?). My perception is that they don’t have time for me, that my words will be superficial and lead to more superficial chat of which I struggle to act interested in. I feel we are not interested enough in other people unless it serves our personal desire/motives to do so. Example: Why do we walk by a person in need in the streets? the main reasons are that we don’t want to mess up our life routine or be inconvenienced with a person with needs when we feel our needs are barely being met(mainly emotionally). Our selfishness isolates us, but it’s hard to break the cycle of selfishness unless you have someone willing to help you break those boundaries and not judge you harshly when you fail(this is someone acting compassionate toward you). If we experienced acts of Compassion like this from those around us more often(ie giving time to one another not just for fun, but for emotional support/exploration), we may break off those self-made chains of personal insecurity a lot easier and quickly, if only we dared pass on this kind of compassion on to one another and forget about personal inconvenience for a moment.
How we view things and anything in life is so various and multifaceted. Our perception of everything around us is dependant upon many things and experiences such as our location, where we are placed, where we sit, where we walk and who we interact with, just to name a few.
I have found my perception of simply walking to something and returning back to where I began leads me to alter my perception each time, I always look for the better route, and each way provides a different view and reveals new paths I previously ignored or missed, all because what I view is forming a new perception of life in my mind, on the fly.
I’m not sure if everyone does that or just me, I’m sure some prefer an habitual path as it’s predictable and feels more comfortable. I do this also, mainly with driving to regular places such as work, as I feel it’s a waste of time choosing other paths to travel when you already know the best path to take, unless something goes wrong, then you need to find a new path on the fly and this can often mean finding new experiences.
The point I’m trying to make is that our perception of life is quite fickle and dependant upon so many factors, influences and environments, but I think there is an underlying motive that drives all that we do and it’s to do with our hearts. What is really fueling you inside? what desires are influencing your daily decisions, sometimes even subconsciously. It could be a desire for a partner, or maybe it’s a conflict that you haven’t resolved with an important person in your life, or maybe it’s battling with grief and not being able to process it or understand it, or you could be so happy that you don’t want anything to change you just want to embrace all that you have and value right now and just want the time to share with those people and things you care for. These are just some things you could be dealing with in your heart.
It’s called introspection, which in my words is the process of analyzing your own heart for issues that are dominant in your mind, to establish what you really need to deal with, and once you do, then see how it affects your perception of life, if it does at all(this isn’t easy and takes time, so don’t try to rush things). I speak of this as we tend to numb our emotions and feelings for our lives and those around us when we are confused or just don’t know what we are feeling. So if we don’t deal with ourselves, it’s highly unlikely others will be able to help us, but remember Support is important, you can’t solve all your problems, some things in life require at least one other trustworthy person who can listen to you and give an alternative view on your own perception of things. So to end this post, your perception of life is not the ultimate truth and we should be careful with how we pass our perceptions on to others and not judge other’s views too harshly, after all we are all vessels of life with our own imperfections. I figure we can either begin to accept those people in our lives or we can judge them and keep our journey’s solitary and depressing. Lets not do the latter, we should stop wasting time in bitterness, anger and confusion because it serves no purpose besides uphold your perception of life high above that of any others and it can burden the people around you, so i suggest one way to combat this is to take time to question how we value our own perception of life and ask ourselves; am I really restricted to this one way of thinking and viewing life? you certainly are not. We were made to create and explore life, not be puppets for it.
Listening to this song was interesting and watching the film clip was quite amusing. The message(according to me) is clear and that is; how often are you living the same same because it’s comfortable and predictable rather then desiring to explore new things? What is this going to lead to if it continues?
I am aware routine is a necessity of life in a lot of ways, but to be content with things in such a way that we never question why we are doing things is a deceptively alluring road to go down, as it can mean you live life without living it in a way that makes you happy or with a purpose. Maybe you should consider taking time every now and then to dwell on your life, ask yourself, are you really living it or draining it away with empty habits? is there a line in your life that you’ve made and hide behind? maybe it’s time to cross it.