Loneliness is a possessive emotion, it thrives in the absence of felt love, even if that lonely person is surrounded by people that love them, if that love is never strategically expressed, meaningfully & on purpose in every day life, that love may never truly be felt, it may not be seen as a reality to that lonely person, because if that love is only expressed in times of distresses they likely will not believe it, in other words that love you think you have for them may fall on deaf ears, in the time of their need. Then you’ll regret it. So express love at any & everytime. Don’t wait until they’re broken until you express it.
I’ve seen a little on this subject occur in my family, just want to clarify some points in general and some police insight, relating to melbourne law, i just want to clarify some things for those going through a violent/emotional time with their partners/friends/family. Whenever you are a victim of violence, especially from someone you love it is always hard to report it or show others what you are going through. You are facing embarassment, confusion, shock, sadness, fear amongst other emotional feelings.
Once you make the choice to get out of the situation theses are some hints to help you get out:
– tell someone you can trust, you’ll need a friend to help you through it.
– if you have been beaten where bruising/noticeable injury occurs(use a mirror), take pictures of bruises and get a friend to witness them and make sure they know they will be witnesses, if court hearings take place.
– Best case is the Police can kick out the violent person in the home straight away, if the event is obvious. When you call 000, the police will witness the scene you are in and if you are a victim of violence, they will see it and they can take the violent person away from the house straight away. The main thing is that you report the problem and file an Intervention Order against the violent person.
– if you call 000 and leave the house after the violent act, and don’t return, nothing will happen when the police turn up to the
– after you call 000 and leave the place where the violent person is, make sure you stay around the area and return to the area when
police arrive to give your statement of evets and hopefully an intervention order can be placed that day and the violent person is
kicked out of the house, then if the violent person returns, call the police and they can arrest them.
-if the violent person leaves you in the house alone, you can call 000 and report you need help and hopefully you can place an
intervention order against the violent person.
– the day this occurs either have a friend stay with you or go to their home, somewhere you can feel safe.
the faults in melbourne law:
– if there are no witnesses to an event, and its your word against theirs, with no physical evidence(photos, witnesses, injuries), its
likely nothing will happen except you both waste of money on lawyers
-A person can be a victim of violence forever, if they don’t report it. Even if a person noticeably beats another, if they don’t report it, nothing can change. Victim is caught in a cycle of trauma.
-A victim who thinks they love the offender will be a punching bag until a friend steps in to encourage them out of it or until they die from a beatings..
the best evidence you can have:
-A witness of a violent event
-photo’s/video of a violent event.(not entirely sure about this, another catch is its illegal to film a person unknowingly wthout
their consent, even if you film someone beating another, it could be dismissed in court based solely on this one ‘privacy law’, its another story if its a public security camera possibly.)
– a confession
-keep a record of threats voiced to you and especially if its written/emailed to you.
Family lawyers. how to find: A good website is run by australian government:
you are entitled to a free 30 min session with any lawyers on that site to get a quote for your situation.