Perception and Introspection

How we view things and anything in life is so various and multifaceted.  Our perception of everything around us is dependant upon many things and experiences such as our location, where we are placed, where we sit, where we walk and who we interact with, just to name a few.

I have found my perception of simply walking to something and returning back to where I began leads me to alter my perception each time, I always look for the better route, and each way provides a different view and reveals new paths I previously ignored or missed, all because what I view is forming a new perception of life in my mind, on the fly.

I’m not sure if everyone does that or just me, I’m sure some prefer an habitual path as it’s predictable and feels more comfortable. I do this also, mainly with driving to regular places such as work, as I feel it’s a waste of time choosing other paths to travel when you already know the best path to take, unless something goes wrong, then you need to find a new path on the fly and this can often mean finding new experiences.

The point I’m trying to make is that our perception of life is quite fickle and dependant upon so many factors, influences and environments, but I think there is an underlying motive that drives all that we do and it’s to do with our hearts. What is really fueling you inside? what desires are influencing your daily decisions, sometimes even subconsciously. It could be a desire for a partner, or maybe it’s a conflict that you haven’t resolved with an important person in your life, or maybe it’s battling with grief and not being able to process it or understand it, or you could be so happy that you don’t want anything to change you just want to embrace all that you have and value right now and just want the time to share with those people and things you care for. These are just some things you could be dealing with in your heart.

It’s called introspection, which in my words is the process of analyzing your own heart for issues that are dominant in your mind, to establish what you really need to deal with, and once you do, then see how it affects your perception of life, if it does at all(this isn’t easy and takes time, so don’t try to rush things). I speak of this as we tend to numb our emotions and feelings for our lives and those around us when we are confused or just don’t know what we are feeling. So if we don’t deal with ourselves, it’s highly unlikely others will be able to help us, but remember Support is important, you can’t solve all your problems, some things in life require at least one other trustworthy person who can listen to you and give an alternative view on your own perception of things. So to end this post, your perception of life is not the ultimate truth and we should be careful with how we pass our perceptions on to others and not judge other’s views too harshly, after all we are all vessels of life with our own imperfections. I figure we can either begin to accept those people in our lives or we can judge them and keep our journey’s solitary and depressing. Lets not do the latter, we should stop wasting time in bitterness, anger and confusion because it serves no purpose besides uphold your perception of life high above that of any others and it can burden the people around you, so i suggest one way to combat this is to take time to question how we value our own perception of life and ask ourselves; am I really restricted to this one way of thinking and viewing life? you certainly are not. We were made to create and explore life, not be puppets for it.


Giving your heart to something good

In life we have a tendency to have our attention consumed by our worries, our problems and our failures. While it’s healthy to reflect upon these things from time to time to learn from them or gather insight, it becomes a problem if we let our lives be overtaken by the feelings that often accompany these thoughts, generally it’s the fear of loss and failure. This can happen when we look into our lives and see the massive future we have in front of us, yet feel blindsided by our seeming lack of understanding and preparation for whats to come.

While it’s required to plan and prepare for many things in life, there is an aspect in life we also shouldn’t deny. It’s what i will call ‘Quiet Acceptance’, this is something we should also plan for, it’s a time to put our chores on pause, and embrace who we are and what we have become up to this point. This is actually hard to do for a lot of people.

It’s easy to think that a busy life is a good life, but it’s also possible it can keep our important thoughts and feelings beneath the surface, it can create a superficial happiness, where we can only rate our success according to the comparisons we place on others. I don’t think this is a good thing to do.

Our society tells us to be like other people, to like the same brands of products and have nice cars, this flows to our relationships. We watch other people, such as our friends and compare our value with the value we place on them or the value we hear others place on them.

The suggestion I put forward to you to counter this, is to regularly have a time of ‘quiet acceptance’, a time where you can reflect honestly and openly about your own life, let out as many of your emotions as you can such as; frustration, thankfulness, regrets, anger. Yell them to the wind and once you are satisfied, stop and wonder for a moment.

This moment is where you deal with the key things in your heart, this is also the moment where you are able to accept yourself, this is where you can learn to love, not only yourself, but all people, if you are willing to embrace yourself. As once we see our own weaknesses and frustrations aswell as our strengths and gratefulness, and embrace them, it opens our eyes to what other people are going through. It helps take away a negative mindset and allows us to give our heart to something better, something good, something like love or at least a pathway to it.

Being Alone

This is something we all experience.

This is something we can fear, if we mainly base our value in other people’s perception of us,

to others, it’s a place of refuge, a time where they can look deep into their hearts and get away from the distractions and question life, trying to make themselves better.

Then there are others who find being alone tiresome, boring and they fear it, they fear their own thoughts and their own perception of self. I think it’s safe to say a lot of people have experienced a glimpse of each of those responses to being alone, in their lives.

When you are alone, you tend to think; some of us think a lot, some a little and some find a way to keep themselves busy instead of thinking.

The questions we ask ourselves when we are alone, tend to be our identity defining ones, whether we like it or not.

The more honest we are with our selves, the more meaningful our questions will be.

A major influence to how honest we can be when we are alone, i think is related directly to our secrets.

The broad perception of a ‘secret’ may cause many of us to associate a secret with the feeling of shame. Although a secret can be related to shameful things we think or do, it is not always the case.

A shameless secret may involve jealous ideas, a bitter view of someone or something, a hurt you experienced which no one has acknowledged and so this keeps you locked in your own world, or a sadness which came from an experience that you can’t understand. They were just examples, there’s more but i can’t think of all of them. This is to get you thinking.

To cut this short, being alone should not be seen as a negative experience, our hearts need a place of rest, free of judgment and prying eyes. In order to fully embrace who you are and find out who you want to be, i suggest that you try to be honest with yourself and question your inner frustrations, or alternatively, your complacency to life.

Whatever you feel, if you feel you need to change, to become the person you truly desire be, then it all starts with accepting your self, forgiving yourself and embracing the things you love. Without acceptance of your own life, there is only judgement left, then if you start judging yourself harshly, you grow bitter, you become dull, you can get depressed. So embrace yourself, then you may find embracing other people isn’t really that hard after all.


Grief is like a burst dam wall & you are in the valley below it. You don’t know how far down the valley you are or when it will catch up to you & sweep you off your feet. Though once it hits you it immobilisers you for a while, then things settle, the flood dissipates, it is then you start to rebuild. Watch out for hindrances during the rebuild process such as bitterness, anger, un-forgiveness & blame. Don’t rush it, don’t ignore it. Accept it & embrace love, as it is the only treatment we have for it.