Appreciating Life

Memory is an important tool in our daily life, it keeps us focused, it gets things done.
it reminds us to prepare things and buy things. It helps us to recall why we do things.
Though what i want to talk about is the living memory which is happening right now.
This is the most illusive of all, it’s called appreciation.

It’s very easy to go through life and live day by day. We get caught up in routine, we find new distractions, we work through different emotions and sometimes forget ‘what it’s all about’ amongst it all. It is important to stop and reflect about our lives and question ‘where we are at’ and test ourselves with tough questions like ‘who do i care about’ and’ why did i start doing this?’

As you may have been reading this you may have felt like you were reading some foreign language, you heard the words but didn’t connect them to your life. Well this is what i call ‘life blockage’.
When we experience intense emotions and behavior in our life, our survival instincts tend to kick in, which allows us to keep functioning but affects our ability or willingness to recall that time in our past. this is more the case for negative experiences, where you’re the victim of abuse or any type of hurt from someone you trusted, either by accident or on purpose. Maybe your hearts been broken or someone attacked you or it may not be as blatant as that, maybe you’ve found it hard to connect with people all your life, which may be the result of your childhood environment growing up, which you’re only now coming to terms with as you are moving into adulthood.

Sometimes in life, you have to go back before you can go forwards. If you sense a numbness within you and you find you don’t know how to remember whats important to you in your life, i can suggest some things to consider:

Bitterness – are you holding onto a hurt? if so you are only torturing your own soul, the other person won’t be affected by the ‘hate’ in your heart, only your life will be diminished even further. letting go and if possible forgiving the action that hurt you is your first start to growing into an appreciative human again.

Judgement – do you find you are critiquing many people around you? if so it may be a reflection on your own heart. we judge others harshly, when we judge ourselves harshly. You can’t get fresh juice out of a rotten orange. Start caring about yourself and be kinder to yourself and you may be surprised to find people may respect you more because as a  result of this change, you may not care as much when they make a mistake or offend you, so you become more likeable to others.

Regret – if only you did this or said that…we can easily halt our future by placing our anchors into our past if we aren’t careful. We make choices and then realize often after it’s too late to do anything about it, that it’s not what we wanted to say or do or not do. It’s hard to comprehend, and hard for me to surmize with words, but from my perspective at the moment, if we are holding onto anything of our past which distracts us from the journey of living our life and loving those around us today, right now, then we need to re-assess our feelings and willingness to allow these feeling/emotions to influence how we live today to ensure we don’t waste what we have right in front of us.

For more thoughts on ‘re-assessing yourself’ go to my other post Perception and Introspection

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a lonely explanation..

Loneliness is a possessive emotion, it thrives in the absence of felt love, even if that lonely person is surrounded by people that love them, if that love is never strategically expressed, meaningfully & on purpose in every day life, that love may never truly be felt, it may not be seen as a reality to that lonely person, because if that love is only expressed in times of distresses they likely will not believe it, in other words that love you think you have for them may fall on deaf ears, in the time of their need. Then you’ll regret it. So express love at any & everytime. Don’t wait until they’re broken until you express it.

Connecting

People connect with one another, it is how we are meant to live. Connecting means engaging people in conversation, accepting people’s company, listening to their thoughts and speaking your own.

Throughout my past, I’ve always isolated myself by default, i guess it’s due to a childhood of criticism and the lack of open communication, it left me unable to be vulnerable to share my thoughts and life with another in a sincere way, i still struggle with this, but I have so much to gain by connecting with people, I’ve got to lose my inhibitions which confine my connections. People connecting with each other is a special thing. Especially strangers. Of everyone, those few whom you connect with & engage in conversation with are special. What draws us together?

You and I should stop resisting each other’s company out of fear or an exaggerated sense of personal insecurity, if you are doing that. In saying that you should excercise caution with the people whom you connect with. People who want to isolate you and keep you to themselves are not trustworthy and do not love you, well not love you with a love that wants the best for you, they tend to love you to control you. I hope you can discern the difference in your relationships. If not you’re setting yourself up for a world of hurt.

 

What are you thinking?

While thinking to yourself; you may hear what you always hear, you may say what you always say, but if you struggle to hear and say something good to yourself, then i say the brave challenge their own ideas when they feel unworthy and the wise discredit criticism by living without shame.

Our emotions are like rain drops, they come for a day or a season, but then dissipate, eventually changing to a sunny warmth, and like the weather, our emotions are meant to change. its called life. So before you get so old you can barely walk and speak, ask yourself if you need to change what you’re thinking and feeling. Don’t hold onto one feeling so much that it consumes you, rather make sure you take time out to re-evaluate what is really important to you, then take hold of that. As you maybe wasting time if you don’t.