In life we have a tendency to have our attention consumed by our worries, our problems and our failures. While it’s healthy to reflect upon these things from time to time to learn from them or gather insight, it becomes a problem if we let our lives be overtaken by the feelings that often accompany these thoughts, generally it’s the fear of loss and failure. This can happen when we look into our lives and see the massive future we have in front of us, yet feel blindsided by our seeming lack of understanding and preparation for whats to come.
While it’s required to plan and prepare for many things in life, there is an aspect in life we also shouldn’t deny. It’s what i will call ‘Quiet Acceptance’, this is something we should also plan for, it’s a time to put our chores on pause, and embrace who we are and what we have become up to this point. This is actually hard to do for a lot of people.
It’s easy to think that a busy life is a good life, but it’s also possible it can keep our important thoughts and feelings beneath the surface, it can create a superficial happiness, where we can only rate our success according to the comparisons we place on others. I don’t think this is a good thing to do.
Our society tells us to be like other people, to like the same brands of products and have nice cars, this flows to our relationships. We watch other people, such as our friends and compare our value with the value we place on them or the value we hear others place on them.
The suggestion I put forward to you to counter this, is to regularly have a time of ‘quiet acceptance’, a time where you can reflect honestly and openly about your own life, let out as many of your emotions as you can such as; frustration, thankfulness, regrets, anger. Yell them to the wind and once you are satisfied, stop and wonder for a moment.
This moment is where you deal with the key things in your heart, this is also the moment where you are able to accept yourself, this is where you can learn to love, not only yourself, but all people, if you are willing to embrace yourself. As once we see our own weaknesses and frustrations aswell as our strengths and gratefulness, and embrace them, it opens our eyes to what other people are going through. It helps take away a negative mindset and allows us to give our heart to something better, something good, something like love or at least a pathway to it.