Giving your heart to something good

In life we have a tendency to have our attention consumed by our worries, our problems and our failures. While it’s healthy to reflect upon these things from time to time to learn from them or gather insight, it becomes a problem if we let our lives be overtaken by the feelings that often accompany these thoughts, generally it’s the fear of loss and failure. This can happen when we look into our lives and see the massive future we have in front of us, yet feel blindsided by our seeming lack of understanding and preparation for whats to come.

While it’s required to plan and prepare for many things in life, there is an aspect in life we also shouldn’t deny. It’s what i will call ‘Quiet Acceptance’, this is something we should also plan for, it’s a time to put our chores on pause, and embrace who we are and what we have become up to this point. This is actually hard to do for a lot of people.

It’s easy to think that a busy life is a good life, but it’s also possible it can keep our important thoughts and feelings beneath the surface, it can create a superficial happiness, where we can only rate our success according to the comparisons we place on others. I don’t think this is a good thing to do.

Our society tells us to be like other people, to like the same brands of products and have nice cars, this flows to our relationships. We watch other people, such as our friends and compare our value with the value we place on them or the value we hear others place on them.

The suggestion I put forward to you to counter this, is to regularly have a time of ‘quiet acceptance’, a time where you can reflect honestly and openly about your own life, let out as many of your emotions as you can such as; frustration, thankfulness, regrets, anger. Yell them to the wind and once you are satisfied, stop and wonder for a moment.

This moment is where you deal with the key things in your heart, this is also the moment where you are able to accept yourself, this is where you can learn to love, not only yourself, but all people, if you are willing to embrace yourself. As once we see our own weaknesses and frustrations aswell as our strengths and gratefulness, and embrace them, it opens our eyes to what other people are going through. It helps take away a negative mindset and allows us to give our heart to something better, something good, something like love or at least a pathway to it.

Being Alone

This is something we all experience.

This is something we can fear, if we mainly base our value in other people’s perception of us,

to others, it’s a place of refuge, a time where they can look deep into their hearts and get away from the distractions and question life, trying to make themselves better.

Then there are others who find being alone tiresome, boring and they fear it, they fear their own thoughts and their own perception of self. I think it’s safe to say a lot of people have experienced a glimpse of each of those responses to being alone, in their lives.

When you are alone, you tend to think; some of us think a lot, some a little and some find a way to keep themselves busy instead of thinking.

The questions we ask ourselves when we are alone, tend to be our identity defining ones, whether we like it or not.

The more honest we are with our selves, the more meaningful our questions will be.

A major influence to how honest we can be when we are alone, i think is related directly to our secrets.

The broad perception of a ‘secret’ may cause many of us to associate a secret with the feeling of shame. Although a secret can be related to shameful things we think or do, it is not always the case.

A shameless secret may involve jealous ideas, a bitter view of someone or something, a hurt you experienced which no one has acknowledged and so this keeps you locked in your own world, or a sadness which came from an experience that you can’t understand. They were just examples, there’s more but i can’t think of all of them. This is to get you thinking.

To cut this short, being alone should not be seen as a negative experience, our hearts need a place of rest, free of judgment and prying eyes. In order to fully embrace who you are and find out who you want to be, i suggest that you try to be honest with yourself and question your inner frustrations, or alternatively, your complacency to life.

Whatever you feel, if you feel you need to change, to become the person you truly desire be, then it all starts with accepting your self, forgiving yourself and embracing the things you love. Without acceptance of your own life, there is only judgement left, then if you start judging yourself harshly, you grow bitter, you become dull, you can get depressed. So embrace yourself, then you may find embracing other people isn’t really that hard after all.

finding a value that lasts

As humans, we live and die, but we rarely think about death, some die for something, some by choice, some by accidents, some for nothing. The end of our time is a question we don’t know how to face. The end of what we know could be today, where our eyes close involuntarily for the last time. Who can know for sure what happens next. All we see is darkness when we close our eyes, so we think that is all there is.
Maybe this could be a reason our world is so vain?
One part of the world is peaceful, people eat and drink. The other part they are fighting to live thru a day.
The rich waste their life away on decadent lifestyles, buying things they don’t need and getting caught in addictions.
The poor die early and suffer under a society that is kept stagnate by powerful people who gain more and live longer thru exploitative means.

we need to deal with the way we value our own souls. We too easily accept judgements others put upon us like a sponge takes in water. We’ve got to have an identity that’s bigger then what our environment dictates to us. We need to find strength in places we have neglected during the rash development of our lives.